A few years back, I attended a close family member’s funeral in Eastern Kentucky. The church was quite a ways from the family plot in a defunct coal town, so the procession spent a lot of time navigating those Appalachian hollers. While driving, I kept noticing something that brought tears to my eyes. Time after time, when another motorist spotted our funeral procession, they stopped and pulled over. What’s more, they got out of the car and, if they were wearing one, took off their hat. Many nodded their condolences as we passed. I’ll never forget that quiet attention to a lost member of the community.

Back in Columbus, Ohio, I’ve seen processions get cut off, honked at, or otherwise suffer general irreverence. When you see a funeral procession on the road, it’s important to show respect. You might not know the family, but your actions can make a big difference. Here’s how to drive respectfully when you encounter one.

First, recognize the procession. Not all of them have a police escort, but many do. You’ll usually see a line of cars with headlights on, some with flags or decals, and the lead vehicle may have a flashing light. These are signs that a funeral procession is in progress.

When you spot a procession, the best thing to do is to yield. In fact, in most states, it’s the law. Pull over to the side of the road if it’s safe to do so. Allow the entire procession to pass without interrupting it. Don’t cut into the line, even if there’s a big gap. 

If you’re at a stop sign or traffic light and the procession approaches, stay put. The procession has the right of way at intersections, even if your light is green.

Patience is key. It might take a few minutes, but rushing won’t help anyone. Honking or trying to rush the procession is incredibly disrespectful. If you’re in a hurry, consider taking another way to avoid it entirely. However, if you choose to do this, be careful not to interrupt or hinder the procession.

Respect extends to all aspects of your driving. Lower your music, avoid distractions, and stay calm. The people in the procession are grieving, and the last thing they need is a disrespectful driver.

Giving a funeral procession a mere moment of our busy, device- and machine-filled lives is a small gesture, but it means a lot to folks saying goodbye to a loved one.